This article is written for those people who have a crush AND the opposite number didn’t share the same feelings. So you want to get over your crush – but are just a confused bundle of emotions. Well relax, take a deep breath and get practical about the whole thing. Following are some simple practicle steps you could take to get back your sanity and maybe some respect and dignity as well.
Remember: You may have had a crush on anybody – old friend, classmate, workmate, teacher, elder sister’s friend or simply the girl at the bus-stop you religiously wait for everyday. Its okay, just read on and maybe you will get some help.
STEPS:
- Realization – Accept the fact that it happened and promise yourself you will get it out of it soon.
- Don’t worry about things you couldn’t help – Don’t think about the things which was not in your hands. (Ex – To make you his/her crush, to make him/her concentrate only in you.
- Admit you had a Crush not Love – Don’t start thinking that it happened because something was less in you. If you start thinking about the reasons regarding why you were rejected – then you would be nothing but harming yourself. Give time to yourself neither you can be 1 more Romeo/Juliet.
- Don’t stay alone – This is the most dangerous thing you can do – this can make you feel sadder. Instead go out with your friends/try attending some parties (Ex – Nightclubs). Or Focus on your other interests
- Move on – GO OUT FROM YOUR HOUSE! Remember it was just a crush no matter it was for long or no matter how strong it was.
- Memories – When you start remembering the good times you had with your crush, immediately start focusing on some other things. (Ex-Move out from that room & sit in the room where your parents/cousins are, Play games, Work a bit).
- Be Honest – Tell them about the crush. It will make you feel relaxed and you won’t sleep with a heavy heart.
- Avoid anger – They didn’t do anything wrong and getting angry on them might lower down your respect especially in front of them and your other friends. It’s a fact that is not their fault that they are not attracted to you.
- Understand that it was good that it happened now – Think if you both would have broke up when you both would have went in a strong friendship/relationship.
- It’s not intelligence to keep hoping that they will one day feel the same – Common you are not in love…It was just a crush!!!
- Instead of dreaming about how great things could have been with your crush, GO PICK SOMEONE ELSE – You’ve have probably dreaming about them from a long time. Its time to stop dreaming!
- Avoid eye contact – Don’t stare at them. Not at all.
- Maintain some type of distance – If you are near to your crush many things can happen (OLD MEMORIES/MORE ATTRACTION), so avoid. If the person is near either go somewhere else or continue your normal activities.
- Remember that this person is not the end of the World – There are more Hot people in this World!
- Go to the gym and work out. Get your mind off of it and feel better about yourself.
- Make an exciting change to make you feel sexy. Treat yourself to a hair-cut, or a new outfit. Make yourself feel confident.
- Erase his/her name anywhere you might have written it – (Ex – Your notebook, your laptop wallpaper, on your bed sheet etc.). This happens a lot of times in your crush.
- Learn from the experience and come out stronger.
Some Tips:
- If you are upset after finding out they don’t like you, talk to someone you trust, like a friend or counselor, about how you feel. Tell them how you’re hurt and ask for advice. Holding things in makes you depressed, and that can make everything much worse.
- Do not listen to love songs or slow songs. It can cause you to become sad.
- You have to remember that your crush for a boy/girl will just come and go. And if you kept thinking about him/her, just say this to yourself “There is not only one but many fishes in the water.”
- Don’t jump into another serious friendship too soon. Date for fun, date someone you normally wouldn’t have been interested in, have some fun as a single person. Seeing that there are plenty of people out there who want to be with you will help you move on and feel better about yourself.
- Don’t let your self-esteem drop. You are still a wonderful person who deserves to be loved; this just wasn’t the one who could love you in that way. You will find many though who can. So keep faith in yourself!
- Don’t talk to them when you’re under the influence of alcohol. You will say something you regret.
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but i love crushes !! they r soooo crushing !!
Ya. It is always very crushing and magical.
How about rnagoeil stereotyping here in the Philippines? I’ll be a hypocrite if I didn’t heard of any rnagoeil stereotyping usually referring from one region or one ethno-linguistic group or a local from a certain place .
A crush is a crush and a breakup is a breakup. Getting over crush and breakup is not easy.
interesting..
aww..:)..hope its tats esy!..:)
Hey Aratrika! Try it!
Talk to them when you are under the influence of alcohol!
Well if you speak something which you shouldn’t then?
superbeee……
Mature Advice from Experienced youngster !
Thanks G.K.
its very true…. crush can happen to mine decent friend nabin too..:)
Ya it can happen Raj so ask your friend whether he wants to stay with it or come out of it
Nice read..make dat 19 ways by adding the opposite of hitting the gym and working out..
Haha :0.
Very well written & pretty true to be honest
Thank You.
well written……guess u have a gud experience of it…..:P
Aradhana yes i had.
its a very well written article and will surely help a lot of people..cheers!!
I hope so…Cheers!
I wish I had read this article when I was 18.
Your comment seems as if you are not going to have any more Crush in your Life? Well Crush has no age it can happen anytime.
I agree Nitish.. SO u mean to say she can still have a crush; right ?
Yes anytime.
The fact that you actually wrote this, *SALUTE*
The fact that you actually wrote this, *ROYAL SALUTE*
Thank You Vedz.
tagal nako sa ceelcantlr, at eto perception ko sa mga banyaga.Indian di marunong makinigAmericans walang pasensiyaAustralians mga boboCanadians nakakainis ang pagiging niceKiwis really really friendly
nice article!!will definitely pass on those tips to my frns!
so very true wat covinced you to write this article?
Oh! Well you are the first one to ask about it
. Lots of people was finding a way thought to give them one. I tried it myself first, experiment got success. You have a crush?
Yes perhaps I can have a crush and after reading your article I think I will have a crush on you.
Well Alolika! You can have a CRUSH. You thought about having a “CRUSH” on me that means i have touched the first level that is “Attraction”
. Jokes apart thanks for liking it. 
Nitish Dude, what u have got to say now.. wink wink ..
nitish got crushed
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SATA PATA –
. You both have arrived in this World so early. Well i dont have any idea, how did it happened? 
Nitish, u r suffering from Crush disease… Please do a check up by heart doctor..
Firstly Piyali its a “CRUSH” disease not a “LOVE” then why should i go to some HEART DOCTOR. Secondly i dont need any DOCTOR. The Best Doc for me is just “Myself”. I hope you got that
@ Nitish : the best docter for you will b ur crush……….coz i know ur crush
she is hard to resist..wats say
i bet she is
She is
yooooooo
i noe that..nitish
What do you know?
GR8….Finally Crush resulted in SATAPATA??
No, not still now. These are just Souls of them, which have arrived to comment on my article
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Hmmm…. Crush in the air..:)
Not only in AIR, EVERYWHERE
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Beware of Nitish his crush is very dangerous.
Just sugestion………..
Beware of Nitish his crush is very dangerous.
Just suggestion………..
Thank you for that lovely comment, it is 1 of the best comment.
Piyali…crush is not in the air but crushes are in the air….lol..:-P
Oh! God.. Looks whose comment is here.
. You are right they stay in the AIR specially when the person on whom you have a CRUSH, GIVES A BEAUTIFUL SMILE.
How to polish learn from NJ
I am speechless on this matter. :{
Yeah… I agree with u Amrita 101%..;-) Nitish is out of control..:-P Crush unlimited!!!!
Unlimited. The more you see the beautiful smile the more it is uncontrollable.
Bade bade shehron mein aisi chotti chotti crushes hoti rehti hain Sonam!!!:-P
It is not a small one.
Daddy daddy, how could u do this to us???
But Son, what did i do?
Daddy, how can u have so many crushes?? Who is our actual “MOM” ???????????????????
Well Son, that is what even i am finding. Where is she? But don’t worry in some years i will find her and bring her, Till she comes LETS Enjoy
indeed…it is a dangerous crush !
Her Smile is more dangerous TRUST ME.
Is she a ghost?????;-P
Ghost?? Where did i mention? That she is doing acts which proves her to be Ghost. Re-correct and Reply.
wow, haha, one good thing about bgiolgng is that i learn a bunch of things from those who comment.I didn’t know this. And it’s really, really nice to know this. Thanks Maki.
Rest In Peace !!
Crush have affected you badly….nitish
Yes it has.. My best and last CRUSH of LIFE.
Daddy, whatever u want to do, do freely. We won’t stop u. But we beg of u plz don’t sell us to others by putting discounts on us..;( ;-P
I cant ever sell you guys. C’mon – It is just the Toys of you both which i am selling..
For all the readers my next article is published. Well this time i wrote on “STRESS” – revealed some easy ways even to get over it.
The article would be in series – for now read PART 1.
How to deal with Stress?
http://enzag.com/health/healthy-living/how-to-deal-with-stress-part1/
Nitish bhaiya.. Awesome article…!!!!
Our bhaiya is always great!!!:)
Please Respond!!! Thank you
OK well i’m in highschool (15 yrs old) and i’ve had a crush on a guy for a couple months. Umm it started out as this guy just teasing me but i didn’t give him much thought until we became partners for a project. We spent the whole weekend hanging out and just flirting with each other and on the last day i thought we had almost kissed! But then the next day I realized that I was probably just overreacting until i told my friend what happened. She came up to me at lunch and said she overheard him say that he thought we almost kissed but didn’t know if i felt the same way. So of course i flipped out and got really excited expecially when i went to talk to him the next day and he suddenly became really shy and all of his friends were cheering. I completely trust her and i think he started to like me and i kind of started to like him especially because we would always joke around and laugh with each other. Summarizing the past 2 months there have been A LOT of rumors (like whether he does or doesn’t like me)… but he hasn’t talked to me as much as he used to after he found out i liked him; it’s mostly his friends saying hi to me and teasing me. Even though i really really like him i told him yesterday i only like him as a friend because i didn’t want to be weird or annoy him and maybe we could just be friends! i know that he probably will never like me and i just need to get over it… but everytime we make eye contact or even say a few words to each other i think that there’s a possibility we could be more than just classmates…..I know it’s childish and we were never in a relationship but i just felt like we had something really special…like the way we looked into each other’s eyes, but i really think it would be best for me to just move on…. what do you think? Thank you soososo much!! <3
That’s a very sweet relation and the best you had. I don’t think you should get over it. No where i could see the guy speaking about himself & you mentioned that he was shy. So we might can take him as a shy guy who doesn’t express feelings & not expressing feelings that doesn’t mean you should move ahead.Stop thinking like this and start reacting. You did a mistake telling him that “I take you as a friend” because on this situation the guy can start thinking “TO MOVE AHEAD” and you would left with nothing. I think you should be the way you both are. Start mixing with him, Start sharing with him. Do not care for the world and even make him forget about the World. Well if any further problems you face do not hesitate to write. I hope you do not face any problem. Take Care
I’m also 15 and I’m in highschool.I’ve liked this boy for 7 months now.I’m a freshmen and he’s a senior.Two of my friends kept saying I liked him until I admitted it.His friend talked him into hugging me on Tuesday.After that I said I was done.Now I can’t stop thinking about him.What should I do?
I think you sugeest him enzag.com then every thing will be clear.
i thnk you understand rest…..
Good Luck Babyyyyyyy
Well i am sorry for replying you late. I was busy for some work, couldn’t be online much. GoodLuck to you for the decision you will take.
Great article! This helped me a lot especially since I’m a teen and my crush became my gf and we broke up after 20 days to be exact don’t know why though, but this sir helped me a lot since I feel a little sad lately because of it.You are so right sir, and It’s true that there are many fishes out there in the sea. * Bows down and Royal salute*
I am feeling so good that you loved the article even on the second a lil sad to hear that. But yes there is a Girl which will come forever, THIS IS JUST NOT THE END. Take Care:) Follow Me on Twitter & Get Daily Updates> https://twitter.com/#!/Nitz016
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hey nitz….After reading your article! you made me crazy to know more about you…dear
Thank You that you loved my article.
@ nitish: really very nice…. all correct REMEDIES………. well expressed by u….
:)
U SEEM TO BE THE CRUSHGURU AT PRESENT….. lolzzzz…..
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very nice & an interesting article…well written….:)
enjoyed reading….!!!
gud luck
after reading this i have spoken to myself got over it and Ari Dayan is a Dick!!!!
i guess i had a fantasy made up in my mind about him but in reality he is nothing compared TO THAT!!! and all he says to me is he wasnt feeling he vibe i told him i loved him and all the dick says is i wasnt feeling the vibe! and then he puts his facebook status as im over this im over u! but you no what he im fine just being friends with him atleast i still have him in my life even if he isnt mine! i just feel like saying this to him “hey Ari i got something to say to you! im over u and i just cant stop smiling because im OVER YOU!!”
well….thanks, they do sound reassuring:]
but the thing is…..ma crush….well we text and talk evry day on phone…we r not in that sort of relationship but…well, he’s confusing me. i really dunno how to get over a person who keeps on popping out of nowhere juz to say gud nite or gud morning………………urgh this is really stressful!
i dont even know if i love him or he is just a crush, and i dont have any friend i;m new in this city and i feel so sad, please give me some advice
Im a junior im high school, I had this huge enormous long crush on this guy ever since sophomore year. I feel really hurt because I found out he took this girl on a date like I just really dont know how to get over him. Like im just totally heartbroken even though I know I never dated him.:(
what if you have a crush with someone at work and you have to see him everyday and hes told you that we will always only be friends
Hey guys! This website is really helpful. I’ve been crushing on this girl for over a year now. I met her when she was senior who was about to graduate on her last month of school, and I was a junior. I saw her in one of my classrooms, and I honestly thought that she is the most beautiful girl I’ve ever seen (not trying to sound weird here). So I one day saw her on facebook, and I added her. We started talking a lot there. I asked her out to the movies on facebook (it was the only communication I had), and she said yes. When I actually try to talk to her, I freeze up or “choke”. I was glad I asked her out to the movies; this was a girl I barely met over facebook. However, it basically went downhill from there. We would still talk occasionally but last summer I asked her out to the movies like 7 or 8 times, and she would always say that her parents won’t let her, and her dad thinks it’s something more (which I wanted it to be). Now this summer, we’re on our summer vacation but she now goes to the Unversity of Georgia. I’m going there too (it’s not because of her). I have faith in myself that maybe I will get a chance to ask her out because we’ll have better communication with no parents and such at UGA. But recently, a week before my graduation, I asked her out to the movies (my 10th attempt asking), and she said that, “I’m actually talking to somebody and don’t think going to the movies is a good idea”. Ever since last early May, I never stopped thinking about her because seeing her beautifulness. She’s a nice and smart girl, but it hurts a lot to find that she’s talking to somebody else, even when I thought she gave me subtle hints that she likes me back but doesn’t. I never quit on anything or anyone, but this time however, I had too………I am a recently graduated senior who’s still going to the same school as her.
I’m in my later 20s and STILL getting crushes AND I am married, to make things worse. The latest crush is on the most beautiful guy I have seen for a while. He’s tall, dark, handsome, slim and so intelligent and switched on. Like a dream package for me. I blush every time I see him and I take leave of my senses. I used to think he liked me back because he used to smile and me and goof around with me and look at me in ”that” way but now I’m not so sure I think he is avoiding me, and I’m really pee’d off, as I am separated from my husband, yet still not divorced. I’m not an ugly woman either I have been told I am quite pretty. The guy is my neighbor and I know he is not married. I’m so confused. Maybe he’s gay???????? Arrgh! if HE IS gay I have no chance….
it really pee’s me off as well that crushing seems to be a high school thing. I feel like a darn freak for crushing at 28 years old! Geeeeeeeeeeezzzzzzzzzzzzzz!!!! :’((
Thanx for the article! It all makes sence. Crushes are for all ages, am actually 33yrs and have had a crush on some one for three yrs. I have seen this person almost everyday, he was so friendly to me and to some extent I thought he was crushing with me too. I reharsed to tell him about it at the end of my last year in my college, but I froze when I had the chance to. The last two weeks before we closed for holidays where the worst of my life, I thought I was going to die of a heart attack just at the thought of not going to see him again. I had the chance to say good bye but didnt tell him how I felt, Any way, it was just a crush I keep telling my self and now am in the healing process. Its like I lost a boyfriend I didnt have in the first place, strange. I have never crushed this hard. May be I will joke about it to him some day when I meet him and not into him at all he he.
-__- I seriously wish I wasnt so danm crazy and insecure, I almost had this one guy I liked for a while, but I blame myself for letting him slip away because of always crying about not being attractive physically and not being good enough,..seriously I wish my ability to fall in love went away , having crushes can break someones heart! I know there are others but for even after 7 long miserable months, Im still sad
the worst is when they like back, but they want to save your friendship…..
*reads Dont Listen to Slow/Love song tip while listening to sad song (Terrible Things by Mayday Parade* CRAP!!!!!!
I really need that
i came to know about this lately…i’m shaterred n drinking right now…:(
I have a crush on my senior, but he’s already taken
I wanna be his friend, but I dont know how.. does anybody have an idea what should I do? please.. help me.. I just can’t stop thinking about him.
Is he a senior citizen? :3
i really could use advice.i really had a thing for this guy,i have been knowing him all my life,it was one of those things were he liked me when we were young,but me being young and silly i didnt like him back and we grow up and i began liking him,but now he dosnt like me and i really cant get over him.i feel like we were meant to be how do i really move forward
this dont help me i feel in love with this nurse in london i know we cant date due to patient restrictions crap but shes in my head 24/7 i saw here again and im dieing inside
help
Whoa! Somebody’s in love!
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tnkxx a lot for the advice
Keeping busy on positive things and surrounding your self with people that are loving and happy will help you get over a crush faster. Whatever you don’t just lay around in solitude like I did for months! I wasted so much time dwelling over someone that was never available to begin with in the first place. We are all better than that!
yes, i agree with all of those people’s comments. But how can you move on so fast? I have a crush and I still can’t forget about him. moving on with your crush is hard. But i think my emotions has got control of me. And i keep saying i don’t have a crush on him anymore, but when his with a girl especially with his crush i get so jealous.
I have had a huge crush on a guy at my work for over 5 years, and I don’t know why. He’s married, and I’m married. I’m happily married to a wonderful husband. We have two children with another on the way. I love my husband to bits, and he is even a lot better looking than my crush. I don’t get it! Why do I even have a crush on this man? For years I’ve tried ignoring it trying to convince myself that it will go away on its own. Instead it gets stronger. I think about him all the time when I shouldn’t. When I do think about him I try to remind myself of the things about him that are opposite from me, or that I don’t agree with. When I feel convinced that I don’t have a crush on him anymore, my heart just melts again the next time I see him. Especially when he smiles at me. I do some modeling work on the side, so I know that I’m not too unattractive, and actually get a lot of good looking guys flirting with me often. However, I don’t have any interest in them. I’m only interested in my husband and my crush. My crush is the same age as I am, but looks more mature for his age, and is a little bit overweight in his mid section, etc.. A couple of other women at my work have casually mentioned how ordinary yet unattractive he is, but I think he is absolutely beautiful! I daydream about being with him all the time. I just don’t understand why though. I have no idea if he is attracted to me roo or not, but I don’t want to know either. I would never want him to know how I feel about him, because he is married also. I just want to block him from my mind so that I can just exclusively think about my husband.
I want to get her off my mind SO bad, but I can’t. Doing most of these things would be worse than hammering rusty nails into my feet and hands and pulling them out the other side. I thought about telling her, but then I think about how I would feel if I found out she didn’t like me… and I stop. To difficult to bear. This has to be the strongest crush I have ever felt in my entire life and probably will always be. I see her everyday and I makes me happy in a way that I just always want to be around her. But I have to get over her and move on, HELP!
i feel you
Sorry to say this but i have tried everything u said but nothing worked,first thing u don’t forget your crush or love, u should know that it will come again and again and the one thing which is working with me on long term basis(like in 3 or 4 months) is whenever she tries to come in my mind i say no you are not for me i pray that you have a healthy fruitful relationship.
Its some kind of positive sarcasm and it works because i know she is going to be there in the corner of my mind(subconscious) ,learned many things about mind and mind control maybe her contribution in my life was to know all about this.
Experience,Good luck
I have this crush on my friend’s brother for over 11 years now, D more I try to forget him, d more d crush gets deeper, have tried ur method buh nothing seems to be working. We re currently friends but he behaves like I disturb him a lot, sometimes he is all nice and understandin but at other times he gives me this busy and u re disturbing me atitude. Honestly I want to stop this stupid crush on him, I need advice on what to do
u r right…
Yea I’m still trying to get over my couch ..damm!! Asian girl she just dont know what I would of done to her to keep her for ever …
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My crush was sweet and flirty with me and he knows i like him but today he said some pretty mean stuff to me and made me feel like a nobody.Everyone told he’s the mean guy that no body likes.We’ve known each other since 1st grade.He isn’t the same guy i knew back then he changed.:(
itz seriously bad 2 get out of crushes im mtry in ma best 2 do tat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i really wanna get out of all this but cant…………………………………… im tryin ma best caz all this is stopin me 4rm achevin ma goals