Amidst all the myth India has witnessed so far, misconception about sexual urge and physical proximity is one that has been in dominance for the longest times. As much as we like being loved and expressing love, the ambiguity surrounding sex is still prevalent and this does not speak to highly of our intellect. Discussing sex preference, sexual desires in open is still a taboo, yet we have internet sites crashing due to over load of browsing. Let’s just bid good bye to this hypocrisy.
As we head towards 14 Feb, the day of love, let’s just let loose and break this myth and the misconception surrounding it. For a change let’s celebrate the day of love by liberating ourselves from the age old concept of being regressive.
Today am not going to talk about the mushy and romantic things couple should do to woo their partners. Am sure you guys are far more experienced so writing an article on it will only add to your boredom. Instead let’s talk about our sexual proximities and physical needs. Statistics have proved that most number of people indulge in sexual activities on 14th Feb thinking that its ideal to end the day with a perfect dose of orgasm. The concept is not completely wrong, but due to incomplete knowledge and fair share of misconception, they end up making a mess of this beautiful event.
Am not claiming to be a sex guru here, infact if I was one, wouldn’t have shared the secret with you all to avoid competition. Deep down am also a product of misconception and myth, but what separates me from the gang is the effort to talk about it in open so that I don’t end up blowing away my day on 14th.
As we move ahead, let’s try and focus on some of the things couples should know to enjoy a good sex on this special day, and other wise too. The target audience for this article is couples; married or unmarried is your own prerogative but do practice “safe sex” if you are unmarried.
Women love sex as much as men do—there is a myth that men want sex more than women. Wrong. Sexual desire is applicable for both men and women. Women tend to attach more emotions to sex than men do, so they may not be upfront in expressing their physical needs, but that does not lower their sexual urge by any mean. You just have to turn them on or read their actions to know their desires.
Compliment is the key—the road to a gal’s heart before a love making session is “compliment”. “It’s only words and words are all I have to take your heart away”, make this Boy zone song a thumb rule to woo your girl.
The more detailed your praise, the more personal it is to her—it shows her that you derive pleasure from her body. “The biggest part of the love-and-care tactic is complimenting your partner’s physical appearance.
Be suggestive — Suggesting, rather than directly asking, is a cunning but effective trick to get what you want in bed. Try lighting a candle and offering to give her a back rub with some massage oil. This works big time.
Be vocal—don’t hesitate to admire your partner’s body type. This is more important for guys as women like being admired in a bold way. Best part about love making is that it gives you the license to be bold and honest to your partner without being guilty. Be vocal and admire her body parts, the more you demonstrate, more you‘ll enjoy. Communication is must.
Slow Dance- Slow dancing is a long-forgotten part of human seduction. Not many know that slow dance is on their list of top 100 foreplay rules as a way to get the juices flowing yet we don’t indulge in it much. This valentine’s day, do you wish to be different? Go ahead.
Choose your music wisely— Let music be the food of love but do choose your music carefully. Music can make or break the mood so start out soft yet upbeat, no dance or rap, and let it continue to mellow out as the night progresses.” Yes, it’s true, guys: You can never woo gals with Metallica. “Make an iPod play list to run throughout the night, something that can fill the background.
Massage — A relaxing sensual massage can unlock her body to some very intense orgasms and much better sex in the end. The ability to relax your partner in this way should be high on your list of skills to master. The same goes for her: The difference between a deeply relaxing massage and a sensual massage is in the manner of touch — you don’t want to relax her too deeply because she will probably fall straight to sleep.
Strip Poker- is a good way to initiate love making. Get a pack of cards and a loss means the other person gets to choose what action is performed on them by the loser. The great part about these games is that you can both ask the other person to do something in a certain way that you may not necessarily have ever done before. It can get rather filthy, and definitely lead to better sex in the end.
Spend on Lingerie- buying lingerie is the most romantic thing a guy can do for his girl. The idea of seeing your partner in a sexy dress can turn on the partners immensely. So spending 3-5k on lingerie is worth in every sense. Also buy few boxes of dark chocolates; it acts as a big turn on for girls.
Foreplay – this is important. You should invest 3 times of the time you would spend in actual intercourse. Foreplay means kissing, massaging and stroking different parts of the body. Both partners should participate and first do it to each other and then do it simultaneously. Survey reports say that most marriages tend suffer due to improper sex life and the core reason for this is less indulgence of foreplay. Foreplay is an aid to charge up a body, which women in particular love.
Role reversal – indulging in role play is the most essential aspect of sex, but how about a role reversal? For a man, greatest arousal is when the gal takes more of a leadership role in bed so all you men, next time do ask her to be you and you can be her amidst foreplay. She’ll have to initiate the sex and take control of the scene, especially if that’s always your job. It is not only innovative, but an aid to have a rocking orgasm. Try.
Do Experiment– Novelty is an intense aphrodisiac and any unusual setting, with strange sensations, smells and muffled sounds, will make sex feel new, upping the excitement. There is nothing more exhilarating than the unexpected, so experimenting with different positions or introducing a toy might be all that is needed to put the “oh yes!” back into your lovemaking.
Go Slow- Guys lets be honest, the longer you last, more satisfied your partner will be!
Go slow, talk in between, take a break and get back to action again. Once it’s done, spend time talking to your partner. This is one of the thumb rule to end the action on good note. Sleeping right after orgasm is strictly prohibited.
The above points are not the ultimate ways of seduction and romance. There are endless ways to woo your partner. I am not here to talk about mushy affairs. This is perhaps a matured way of looking at romance and love making.
This Valentine’s Day, let us bring sex out of the closet and discuss facts upfront.
Its 2012, enough of mushy talks. Why not have healthy conversations about our sexual preferences? Let’s liberate ourselves from the conservative ideology which prevents us from exploring facts and enlightening ourselves.
Some of you may hate the article, others might love it. But I can assure you that this effort of mine will not go unnoticed. We love sex, its time we celebrate our desires without being apologetic. [Article View] : 3135