Are you in one of the stages of relationship where the involvement is only because you have given him/ her word that you want to be there? Or because your parents know about the affair and both the families have already started planning for a wedding, while you just want to end the relationship. It is a very difficult stage in any person because even though you are unhappy you just are clueless how you should take the control of the situation, since your actions might hurt someone very badly. But no matter what, if you think the relation is a burden for you, you are no longer in love, it’s time you end the relationship rather than proceed into an unhappy marriage. Read on to know what the possible ways are you can end a relationship that is not happening from your end at least.
- Listen to your heart: Even though all the other provocations in life will forbid you to end the relationship because you have actually give the commitment for it long back, listen to your heart before you take the final call. If you think that you just cannot carry on with the relation just convey the message to your partner. For the time being you will end up hurting him/ her a lot, but it is good for the long run. The person will get over the pain in due course of time. But if you procrastinate and do not convey your feelings now and carry forward the relation like a burden it will bring untold bitterness in the affair, which will be detrimental for both of you.
- Face the situation: Be bold in such matters instead of running away from the crisis. If you are to end the relation, be bold enough to face your partner in person and then convey your feelings. Do not try to end long-term commitments like these over the phone or by a message conveyed through a friend. You will end up hurting your partner more. The fact that he/ she had been with you for so long give the person the entitlement of a respect that the person deserves. Do not deny that. Even if the temptation is to run away from the situation as fast as possible, drag yourself to meet him/ her and then tell that you do not wish to continue with the relation any more.
- Be polite: It is very childish to blame the other person because the relation is appearing a burden to you or you feel it is not happening for you anymore. Both of you are responsible for the matter so do not unnecessarily blame the other person. Do not shout and blame the other person rudely and point fingers at him/ her. Be polite and state the reasons why you think that it is not happening for both of you and it’s time you guys part your ways.
- Be firm: Different people have different ways to handle crisis. It might happen that after you have conveyed your feelings; your partner might break down and try to evoke your sympathy through tears. In such a situation you have to be firm and not show your weakness. If you give in at that time, remember you have to face the ordeal for which you have gathered the courage now and you will again have to replay the episode later. So it is best that no matter what the provocations are you are pretty firm in facing the consequences of your decision and under no situation you are retracing from what you have just conveyed.
- Do not laugh: Under no circumstance should you laugh and smile after you have conveyed your feelings. Remember you are ending something that was precious to both of you and something that your partner still holds dear to. So if you are laughing and smiling and making light of the situation, your partner might get the wrong signal that you are still committed and whatever you have just said was simply in jest. So be careful of your body language and gestures and so not laugh and joke at that time about other things as well.
Saying no to your partner needs much more courage than proposing to a new person because you are handling with lot of emotions and feelings of a person who had been very dear to your heart. So be very careful that you are handling the situation with a lot of care. Once if you are brave enough to do this, even though you might face some temporary problems, time will take care of the situation later. So do not hesitate and prolong something that you will have to do some day. Just do it.