Why women should not change their surnames after marriage?

It is a common practice for women to change their surnames after marriage. Women are also often identified as per the names of their husbands. However, this is 21^st century and in this era a woman’s professional life and her identity is as important as her husband’s. In this scenario women often carry on with her previous surnames even after marriage. Read on to know why a woman can and certainly should retain her maiden even name after marriage.

• In the changing times of this world, if a girl decides to carry on with her maiden surname she is considered to be modern, smart and confident. In fact changing of surname after marriage and taking up the husband’s name might sound a little old fashioned and back dated. If a girl has been identified by a particular name and surname for long, it is expected that she will carry it forward rather than changing it. After all marriage is a union of two respectable individuals and so should not result in the ruining of identity of one.
• Often a woman might change her surname if she does not have a fascination for it or considers it to be a little tacky. But if she is in love with it and if her surname had been an identifying factor for her always then she should never change it. It might also happen that her husband’s surname is very funny or irritating and she is ashamed of it. Then certainly there is no question of changing surnames.
• Changing surnames always involves a lot of paperwork, which most of the time is very tedious. You have to change the name from your pan card, your passport, bank statement, driving licence and so on. So this laborious process might appear too hectic and time-consuming for many and so they choose to retain their maiden name only.
• It is the age of equality and if a man tells his wife to change her surname he himself should be prepared to do the same. And if he thinks that changing of surname does not suit his manly stature, he himself should understand the same could be disrespectful for his wife as well. So there should never be any imposition to change a woman’s surname by her husband or her in-laws. If it is a willing decision by the wife it is acceptable but anything forceful should not be encouraged.
• Some women want to change their surname because they feel that when they have children all the family members should have the same surname. But it often happens today that many couples do not voluntarily opt for children. In such a situation, changing of surnames becomes useless and the reason ceases to exist.
• Nobody gets married to get divorced. But it is indeed a possibility and no one knows why or how. Even if it is an ill-omened thing to discuss divorces right after a marriage, it is indeed a possibility and human beings should always be prepared for any and every eventuality. So if a marriage ends in a divorced, try and imagine the hassles involved of changing the surname back to the maiden name if a woman has actually switched to her husband’s surname after marriage.

So in order to save a lot of odd situations it is best to retain the maiden surname after marriage. After all love blossoms between a couple not because of changing of surnames but because of the personal equation between the two.

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