There was a time in India when smoking was more of a fashion trend than an addiction. People flaunted their cigarettes with a view to win opposite’s sex attention. Men smoked cigarettes to look cool and women fagged as it gave them a feel of liberalization. Both logics were a complete hogwash as soon enough they realized that smoking can only help you win a doctor’s attention and nothing beyond it. Though the problem of smoking is still persisting and its dominance over us is far from over, but atleast now we don’t make an effort to woo girls or boys by lighting a cigar or cigarettes for that matter. But as trends are never stagnant, old trends makes way for new ones and keeping the ever changing legacy of trends alive, m over but atleast now we dont a new notion is now floating in our society where loosing virginity in a relation is an “in-thing”. Is sex an integral part of courtship between a boy and girl? Is virginity an old age concept which ceases to exist now?
In present modern world, people are moving faster than ever before. We need everything in split seconds. We meet people, like them, and even before we realize we start dating them. The concept of liking someone and gradually falling in love is rare. Is it because we lack time or because we are indecisive? It could well be because of the lust factor that drives us toward opposite sex and we end up having a physical relationship. Sex is today the most misused thing in world. You must have heard that “in today’s time no one is virgin, it’s normal to lose virginity before marriage.” Have you ever thought about the reason behind this? Young couples are so casual about things that they take sex as good time pass activity than an expression of love. People make friends on social networking sites, but above 60 % of them move ahead with a desire to sleep with the opposite sex. Lack of Patience or emotions is one reason which is the root cause of this desperation. Like instant food, we like sex to be instant without any investment of time and emotions involved in a relation. Do I fall in that bracket? Not sure but am surely a virgin so I might see myself in the bracket of those esteemed people who have shown enough patience in choosing a partner to sleep with. Or it could be that no one has considered me worthy of it. Lol.
In today’s time, dating someone means sleeping with him or her. It has become “implied” thus any one who is in a relation yet a virgin is a rare specie. If a couple is together for more than a year, we assume that everything between them has happened in bed and there is nothing formal left in-between them. If you go out with your girl friend on a holiday, next question your friends will ask is “how the night was”. It has become a known fact that staying together or enjoying together would end up sleeping together without marriage? You can’t blame the society; it has become a reality because of us as it is we who can never think of a relation beyond sex. In a group of friends, you are more often shy to admit that you are a virgin. Is being a virgin a taboo in our society? This concept was not too prevalent a decade ago. Influence of cinema or modern liberalization in form of freedom of action has led to this. I am not saying its wrong, given a choice I might end up falling in same bracket but I would rather fall for a girl emotionally than love her body to fulfill my physical needs.
Stress, an abused word used in relationship. We often say that we are stressed so we need sex to overcome it. Sex does play a role in rejuvenating our energies but if we all start using sex as a remedy to cure stress, society would turn into a brothel. If two people make love with emotions involved in it, it’s perfectly fine. If two friends make love with an intention of taking their relation to second level, it is great. But if sex is used to lose virginity for the sake of trend and modernism, it is surely misused.
When you meet a girl, do you see her as an object to fulfill your physical needs or is it the emotional reason that drives you to her? The answer you get is the reflection of the society we live in. Accept it or change it. Choice is yours.
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